Why Do Men Not Get Access to Shelters Like Women or Counselling Services/phonelines?
Question by Roger: Why do men not get access to shelters like women or counselling services/phonelines?
There are number news reports on youtube of men having to ring women’s shelters to ask for help (as if they’re gonna get treated equally by a women’s shelter) isn’t this gender inequality?
According to a men’s rights lawsuit there are programs which (by law) exclude males victims from access to services.
So why are men not treated equally and should men have the right to protect themselves and their children from bad women, especially seeing as men cannot use physical force to defend ourselves because that will most likely result in him being imprisoned for “violence against women”.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NomPlNWeIV8
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Answer by Taziketoro
Domestic violence against men is not fully understood and accepted yet and unfortunately male victims of DV do not get the help and support they need. There is a lot of stigma attached to being a male victim of DV especially if the perpetrator is a woman. Attitudes are starting to change but unfortunately I think it will take a long time before male and female victims of DV are treated equally.
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Telephone scatologia or making obscene phone calls for sexual purposes may be a reason that men aren’t welcome on some hotlines.
Many reasons. No one group is responsible for this double standard.
There is the feminist focus on domestic violence as violence against women, and the actions of a few militants who actively worked to suppress information on female-on-male domestic violence.
There are also the widespread societal notions that a man should be in control of a woman and that since men are stronger on average this makes women ineffectual. These untrue societal notions both lead to people believing that a woman couldn’t really hurt a man.
Then there are early biased studies which claimed that domestic violence was much more likely to happen to women than to men. These studies were done by simply polling people with the question “does your spouse abuse you?” The problem with the was that the men who responded were less quick to recognize and more reluctant to report abuse for what it was. When specific behaviors were mentioned (slapping, kicking, pushing, throwing shoes), then the numbers turned out even between the sexes.
I hate this double standard, though, and I’m glad the Men’s Rights group was able to do something about it. And that it got covered by the news.
The do.
http://www.batteredmen.com/bathelpnatl.h…
California, Lancaster – Valley Oasis Family Violence Shelter
This is one of the extremely few shelters in the entire US which offer help to victims without discriminating based on gender. Their 24-hour crisis line number: (805)945-6736.
California, Sacramento
Claudia Dias, director of “Changing Courses” in North Highlands, a suburb of Sacramento California, has anger management groups for both men and women, and works with women who are abusive to their partners. Their phone number is (916) 332-5056.
California, San Diego County
The Domestic Violence Hotline 1-888-305-SAFE (7233) is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and provides referrals to a variety of services such as: Domestic Violence shelter bed availability, Counseling services, Support Group services, Emergency Food and Clothing, Legal services, Anti-Stalking information, and other available community resources. I called and talked with an employee there, and they provide services for everyone — men, w
Florida
The Florida Men’s Resource Center has a list of resources for men in Florida. Women and children are “welcome also”, according to the web page. The Florida Men’s Resource is a SAFE Affiliate.
Here are some resources if you’re in Florida. These resources said that they help battered men:
SHELTERS (407 area code)
Coalition for the Homeless: 426-1250
Crossroads Mission: 843-5269
Central Care Mission: 299-6146
Anthony House: 383-5577
Salvation Army 423-8581
Fresh Start Project 422-9781
COUNSELING (407 area code)
Cornerstone Institute: Bruce Stoakley 830-8808
Spouse Abuse Outreach Ctr. 895-6099
Christian Service Center 425-2523
Georgia, Atlanta
The Ogeechee Judicial Circuit Domestic Violence Shelter offers services to both men and women. Men do not stay at our shelter; however, they are able to provide shelter in a safe place for them at another location in the community. They have advocated for several male victims of domestic violence in the past three years of our existence (as of 1998). (912) 764-4605 crisis line
The Partnership Against Domestic Violence
1475 Peachtree St.
Suite 400
Atlanta, GA 30309
404/870-9600
ADDITIONAL PHONE NUMBERS: crisis line: 404/873-1766 (see locations for local office numbers)
HOURS/DAYS: 9:00 am to 5:30 pm MON – FRI; 24 hour crisis line
SERVICE DESCRIPTION:
referral services for battered men, batterers’ program, program for women charged with assault
24 hour crisis line
temporary protective orders
support groups, counseling – men, women, children
parenting education
parent/child activities
child/spouse abuse prevention/education
relocation
Mass., Boston
There is a group trying to set up services for heterosexual abused men. See http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/batteredhus…
Maine
The Battered Men’s Helpline reports that Battered Men’s support groups are starting up in Southern and Central Maine. Call their toll free number 1-877-643-1120 Access Code # 0757 for meeting times and locations. If you who are interested in helping and/or offering financial support, please call 207-683-2515. re is a group trying to set up services for heterosexual abused men. P.O. Box 252, Harmony, Maine 04942. E-mail [email protected].
Michigan S.A.F.E. Hotline
The SAFE group in Michigan has set up a national hotline for battered men and lesbian women to call: (616)941-0825. Requests for help can be written to [email protected].
Tennessee, Nashville
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Tennessee, Nashville
Cumberland Heights is an alcohol and drug treatment center with a court services component. The court services program offers many different classes for court-ordered clients, and one of them is domestic violence classes. The classes are for men and women who have been arrested for domestic violence charges AND who have substance abuse issues. Substance abuse issues ranges from addiction to using during the incident that got them arrested. Not all have serious problems with alcohol or drugs. They do not offer victims services; all of those are referred to local shelters. The program is a 6 month program and the clients meet one time weekly. If someone needs information on any of these services, the number is 1-800-707-8882.
Cumberland Heights also seems to have a program for women perpetrators of violence. Contact the program coordinator, karen Bybee, at (615)353-4398.
Texas, Ft. Worth
The Women’s Haven, hotline number: (817)535-6464. They will
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Texas, Arlington
The Women’s Shelter (hotline number 817-460-5566) will help battered men. To make a counseling appointment, call (817)548-0583. I have heard of at least one man receiving services here.
Texas, Ft. Worth
The Women’s Haven, hotline number: (817)535-6464. They will help battered men.
Texas, Dallas
The Family Place, (212)941-1991, will offer help to battered men.
Washington, Snohomish
Apparently, the Center for Battered Women in Snohomish County has a twenty four hour crisis line for victims of domestic violence. Advocates are trained to talk to callers of all genders and sexual preferences providing safety planning, advocacy based counseling and community resource referral. The phone number is (425)252-2873. (7/6/98)
Washington State
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Washington State
The Washington State Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached toll-free at 800-562-6025. Their URL is http://www.domestic-violence.org, and the email is [email protected]. Their website is almost completely in gender-neutral language, and their mandate is inclusive of all abuse victims (and possibly perpetrators as well). [MenWeb editor’s note: My own opinion is that the Hotline uses gender-neutral language to describe, exclusively, a woman’s experience. See The Gender-Neutral Joke. When I called, they named only one center that served men, in Seattle, and suggested that men call the National DV Hotline. Their page “What is Domestic Violence” focuses on the gender-polarizing”Duluth Model,” defining domestic violence in terms of men asserting male privilege over men.]
Australia
If you live in Australia, see the list of Australian hotlines and information for men that are abused. Also see here for more Australian hotlines.
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Canada, Calgary
Apparently, the university there is providing a hotline for abused men, but I haven’t found out the phone number for it yet. I’ll let you know as soon as I do.
Canada, Toronto
The Easton Alliance for the Prevention of Family Violence is the first Canadian family violence prevention agency and charity for abused men. It is also perhaps the first organization of its kind in the world. You can contact them by phone: (416)691-8269, fax: (416)691-1113, mail: 97 Main Street, Toronto ON Canada M4E 2V6, and e-mail: [email protected]. They offer a support group, referrals, and more.
Canada, Victoria BC
The Victoria Men’s Centre, has information and a discussion circle for men, and makes referrals to counselling and other services. There’s also another group starting, called the “Well Society”, which is setting up a retreat center for men, due to be open in a couple of months. Their phone recording line is at (250) 370-4636, and address is Box 8082, Victoria, B.
Ireland
AMEN, in Dublin, opened in December 1997 and heard from over 3,000 men and their families in the first year. They offer a confidential advice line for Men in violent relationships. Read Amen’s article “The Male Victim” on MenWeb.
United Kingdom
Men’s Advice Line & Enquiries (M.A.L.E.)
0181 644-9914
Monday & Wednesday 9AM to Midnight
(answer machine all other times)
Write to: Les Davidson
PO Box 402, Sutton, Surrey, SM1 3TG
“Information for and about Male Victims of Domestic Violence”
The Resource Center in Aberdeen, SD recently changed its name, but hasn’t yet updated its web page. Don’t let the old name, Resource Center for Women discourage you! I’ve spoken with them and they provide counseling for men, may start a men’s support group soon, and provide ad hoc sheltering for battered men who’ve had to leave their homes. (Holzman
Seattle
Men Working Against Abuse
CRISIS LINE: (206) 461-7824
Business line: (206) 461-7824
Battered men who call Seattle’s state- and county-funded New Beginnings program are referred to Men Working Against Abuse. MWAA is not on the DSHS list of state-funded programs, or even state-recognized, list of Washington state domestic violence resources.
Men calling the program outside of office hours are told that the staff is either out of the office or on the phone. According to this phone message, their first service is voluntary “support groups for abusive men on how to become abuse-free and overcome the consequences of their past abuse for themselves and their loved ones.” Second, they offer “educational programs for individuals and couples on topics such as non-violent child discipline techniques and how to heal families and relationships that have suffered from abusive relationships. Third, they offer “services for men who are victims of abuse, to help them understand the situa
There are also many more just check out the website for additional resources.
To the contrary, a lot of homeless shelters are “men only” because there are so many more homeless men than women. Maybe that’s the same reason why there are more women only shelters for victims of domestic violence. So many more women need them so they generally cater to women. I mean come on, when’s the last time a guy fled his home because his wife was abusing him?